Think back to the last time you felt angry, and I mean really angry.
How did that make you feel?
For most of you, the answer will be something along the lines of “bad” or “frustrating”.
For some of you though, "empowering" might be closest to the feeling you had. Many a time anger can indeed be empowering, so that is a perfectly valid response.
This proves a very important point though, which is that anger isn't inherently bad.
That's contrary to the common perception of anger, where anger is treated as this big bad wolf that ruins everything.
The truth though is very different, because anger isn't always bad, especially when you know how to manage and channel it well.
Anger isn't always bad.
However, being angry all the time is bad for you. The reason why anger generally has such a negative impact on our lives is because we have little to no control over it. It creeps up on us, and takes over our senses. This is why controlling and managing your anger is so important.
Something that can help you with managing your anger is reminding yourself why letting your anger run amok isn't a good idea.
We know that getting angry all the time isn't good for us, but it can be easy to forget those, and that's why regularly reminding yourself the reasons why that is not good can be a great way to expand your own awareness about the feeling of anger.
And the more aware you become of your anger, the easier it becomes for you to manage and deal with it.
On that note, here are some important reasons why anger is BAD for you:
It raises your stress level
It raises your blood pressure
It can make you blind to options
It can make you say and do things that you regret
It can cause you to make bad decisions (which is one of the reasons why it's a bad idea to make important decisions in the heat of the moment).
To be absolutely honest, I still struggle with my anger at times. So this is as much a reminder for me as it is a reminder for you.
If you take away just one thing from this note just keep this in mind: anger isn't inherently bad, but giving into anger and letting it run you, is. So, mind your anger, and don't let it control you.
Take charge of your emotions,
Salek
P.S. One of the most common reasons why people get angry is because of toxic people. Toxic people are harbingers of chaos and unhappiness, and can impact you in all sorts of negative ways. Learn more about that and how you can deal with them, here > How to Deal With Toxic People: 10 Essential Tips and Strategies for Dealing With Toxic People